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Cutting Down Costs


Monday evening I was a guest at a meeting of the Machchangolhi Women’s Committee members and their friends who chose to attend an evening get together of the group. The meeting was introduced by Rabiya from the Ward Office, and it was also attended by the Secretary of the Women Entrepreneur Council who invited me to the meeting. This was one in a series of meeting that have been organized bythe Ward Women’s Committee.

As guest speaker, I had the opportunity to share some of my experiences and arguments with the group. We deliberated on and discussed the role of money and how it impacts our life and some of the best practises for using money in a meanigful way.

In our discussions, I noticed something very interesting. We had got into three groups for the discussions and what came out of all the three was almost identical. Poeple in the groups wanted three things from the money they get: (i) fend for their basic needs (ii) save some for a gloomy day and (iii) help those in need. What a wish list! But that is really true! That is how big our hearts are. Ofcourse, we went on to do a reality check and to focus on the challenges that exist before us and how to best manage”what we have”.

What was also one of the key learning points from the experience is our belief that God is indeed our partner in wealth creation. We have to set aside God’s share of the wealth and then use the rest for our needs, while keeping some away for a rainy day.

One useful hands on experience shared by a mother of few children is the day when she took her kids to a fair. She said that the kids were told how much they have for “spending money” and the children went around shopping themselves. They made a list of the things they wanted and their prices as they went around and finally set down to make a “buying list” which was good for all at the end of the day. The children decided what to buy and they made their own decisions. The mother went home happy unlike before when she had to tell the children that something they wanted was expensive and the children feeling bad about it.

As all the stories and the discussions came to a close, the group agreed that it was not cutting down costs that was important, but how we spend the wealth we have – however little or abundant. And we also agreed that the best way to do that was to keep a log of expenses and to review it with the whole family.

Each of us leant something before we walked out of the door after the one and a half hour session. All of us left the room with a commitment to keep a log of our daily expenses!

 
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Posted by on July 17, 2008 in Civil Society, Positive Values

 

How to Receive Constructive Criticism


Here are 7 keys to effectively receive constructive criticism:

  1. Silence your feelings and listen objectively so you can get something from the feedback.
  2. Remember feedback is not final. It is only a part of your whole person and performance at any given point in time.
  3. Before saying “I know,” humbly and quietly listen to all that is being told you so you can build a relational bridge, open communication lines for future feedback, and learn from that which is being said.
  4. Remember personal growth and professional development is a process and journey. You don’t have to be perfect or flawless. Allow yourself freedom to fail, make mistakes, but humbly and wholeheartedly learn from them. Enjoy the journey and grow daily.
  5. After the person is done providing constructive criticism to you ask them, “Is there anything else you’d like me to know? Is there any way I can improve personally and enhance my performance professionally? What are your recommendations?
  6. Refuse to argue over any points of disagreement big or small. Simply remain open for feedback and input from outsiders whereafter you can ultimately make you own decisions.
  7. Thank the person for providing constructive criticism and when appropriate highlight what you learned or deemed positive about the interaction.

Read the full article here

 
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Posted by on June 18, 2008 in Positive Values

 

How to Give Constructive Criticism!


Herein are 7 keys to giving constructive criticism:

  1. Consider and care for a person’s feelings before endeavoring to criticize them.
  2. Acknowledge a person’s strengths and accomplishments before plunging into recognizing their weaknesses. Build them up as a person first before pointing out flaws and dangers.
  3. Commit to the person and their organization over the long term as they endeavor to improve and make necessary adjustments.
  4. Speak from the heart truthfully and graciously realizing that we all are continually growing and evolving personally and professionally.
  5. Allow the person whom you are correcting and providing constructive criticism to ask you any questions and comment upon that which you are saying.
  6. Refuse to get into an argument. Just state that which you see, feel, hear, and know.
  7. Thank the person for listening and honor them as a person and professional for doing so.

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Posted by on June 16, 2008 in Positive Values

 

Start with Yourself: by Bubble Toes


I believe in changing the world: the whole world. Yet this post by Bubble Toes is a real eye opener. Read for your inspiration.

 
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Posted by on June 13, 2008 in Positive Values

 

Caffeine Overdose


Yesterday I was down with what a friend of mine said, was a cigarette and coffee overdose. What happened to me was; that I had a bad cough, high fever and a terrible body ache. I was furious at having being subject to this condition.

Today when I turned up for work, I was furious with myself for having put myself in such a situation where I have given the opportunity to someone else to point a finger at me. Yet, the truth is that what I have gotten into is my responsibility and mine alone.

The point is, sometimes we think that our feelings are a product of other people’s thoughts, words, or actions. Yet, the truth is that they are our own.

I would have to be more mindful of what I fill up my veins with. Better luck, the next time!

 
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Posted by on June 9, 2008 in For Laughs, Positive Values

 

Dhoneh Dhee!


I was walking on my way to the ferry to get home, after spending a late evening at work. On the way I saw a man knocking at the window of a taxi and frantically shouting at the driver and pointing to him to reverse and go back and to the left side of a one way street. In a moment, a girl came out of the house the taxi was by, and got in. The man looked behind him and that was the moment “his taxi” came and stopped by his luggage on the other side of the street. I walked on.

I was reminded of a story from Hinnavaru where I worked as a headteacher for six years.

Once there was this teacher from the south who was working in the school. One day when he went to the classroom and came back, he found this girl running behind a boy shouting “dhon dheynvee” (give kiss). The teacher immediately ordered the grade 3 girl to the office, and told her to wait in detention after school. He knew that this girl was from a “bad home background”.

The teacher was very upset when he came to the office and found the girl missing and almost hit the ceiling when he found that the assistant headteacher had sent the girl home without keeping her for detention. Now, to cut a long story short; the assistant headteacher explained the following to the teacher who was past boiling point.

The girl was chasing the boy to get his “yellow” color pencil which the boy had grabbed from her. In Hinnavaru, children call yellow color pencil, “dhon”. So she was asking the boy to “give (her) dhon”; and NOT chasing the boy for a kiss!

Anyway, we make assumptions numerous times in our relationships and daily lives. It is always good TO ASK before we jump to conclusions, and make a fool of ourselves. I found this story useful in my communication sessions on organizational behavior/culture.

 
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Posted by on May 29, 2008 in For Laughs, Positive Values

 

How I feel….! (Dhivehi)


އަޅުގަޑުމެން ދިރިދުނިޔޭގައި އުޅޭ ކޮންމެދުވަހަކީ އަޅުގަޑުމެން ކޮންމެމީހަކުވެސް ތަފާތު އެތައް އިހުސާސްތަކެއް ތަޖުރިބާކުރާ ދުވަހެކެވެ. އަޅުގަޑުމެންގެ ކުރިމަގުގެ ދުޅަހެޔޮކަމާއި ހަމަޖެހުން ބިނާވެފައި އޮންނަނީ އެއިހުސާސްތަކުގެ މައްޗަށެވެ. އަޅުގަޑުމެން ހޭލާތިބޭވަގުތު އަޅުގަޑުމެންބައިވެރިވާ ކޮންމެހާދިސާއެއްގެ – އާދެ، އަޅުގަޑުމެން ކޮންމެމީހެއްގެ ފިކުރާއިބަހާއިއަމަލުގެ މިސްރާބުހިފަނީ އެއިހުސާސްތަކުން އުފެދޭ ޖަޒުބާތުތަކުންނެވެ. ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
އިންސާނުންނާއި ޖަނަވާރުންގެ ތަފާތަކީ، މިއިހްސާސްތަކުގެ މައްޗަށް ބާރުފޯރުވުމާއި، އެއިހްސާސްތަކުން އުފެދޭޖަޒުބާތުތަކުގެ ހުންގާނު ހިފުމުގެ ކުޅަދާނަކަން ލިބިގެންވާ ދިރޭތަކެތިކަމުގައި އަޅުގަޑުމެންވުމެވެ. ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
މިޕޯސްޓުލިޔަން މިއިންހިނދުކޮޅުވެސް އަޅުގަޑު މިއިނީ ވަރަށްބޮޑު ހިތްހަމަނުޖެހުމުގެ އިހްސާސެއްގެ ތެރޭގައެވެ. އަޅުގަޑުދެކޭގޮތުގައި ކޮންމެހެންކުރަންޖެހޭ ކަމެއްގެ ވާހަކަ ފޯނުކޮށްފައި ބޭފުޅަކަށް ދެންނެވުމުން، އެއީ އެއްވެސް ބޭނުމެއް އޮތްކަމެއްނޫންކަމުގައި އެބޭފުޅާ ވިދާޅުވުމުން އުފެދުނު ހިތްހަމަނުޖެހުމުގެ އިހުސާސެވެ. އަޅުގަޑުގެ ބުއްދިއަށް ފެންނަގޮތުގައި އަޅުގަޑު ވިސްނާގޮތް އެއީ އެންމެރަގަޅުގޮތްކަމުގައި އަޅުގަޑަށް ގަބޫލުކުރެވޭތީއެވެ. ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
މިއިހުސާސް ދެންބަދަލުވުން އެންމެގާތީ ބަދަލުހިފުމުގެ ނުވަތަ ދެކޮޅުހެދުމުގެ ޖަޒުބާތަކަށެވެ. ދެން އެންމެފުރަތަމަ އަޅުގަޑު ބައިވެރިވާ ހާދިސާއެއްގެތެރެއިން އަޅުގަޑުގެ މިޖަޒުބާތު ފާޅުވެގެންދިޔުމަކީ އިންސާނީ ތަބީއަތެވެ. އެހެންނަމަވެސް، ޖަނަވާރަކަށްވުމުގެ ބަދަލުގައި އިންސާނަކަށްވީތީ، މިއިހުސާސްކޮންޓްރޯލުކޮށް އަޅުގަޑަށް ކުރެވެމުންމިދާ އިހުސާސުން އުފެދޭޖަޒުބާތު ފާޅުވެގެންދާނެގޮތުގެ މައްޗަށް ބާރުފޯރުވުމުގެ ކުޅަދާނަކަން އަޅުގަޑަށް ލިބިގެންވެއެވެ. ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
ތިމާގެ އިހުސާސްތަކުން އުފެދޭ ޖަޒުބާތަކީ ތިމާގެ ބާރުގެ ދަށުގައިވާ އެއްޗެއްކަން ދަންނަމީހާއާއި އެކަންނުދަންނަމީހާ ދުނިޔޭގައި އުޅޭއިރު ކުރާތަޖުރިބާ ވަރަށް ތަފާތެވެ. އެކަމުގެ ހޭލުންތެރިކަމާއި ދަތުންނެތުމުގެ ސަބަބުން އެހެންމީހުންނާއިއެކު ހަމަޖެހިގެންއުޅުމާއި އުފަލާއިހިތްހަމަޖެހުމުން އަދި އިންސާނާގެ ނަފުސަށް އެންމެބޮޑަށް ބޭނުންވާ ހިތްހަމަޖެހުމާއި ހެޔޮއެދުމުގެ ޝުއޫރުތަކުން އެމީހާ ތާއަބަދަށް މަހުރޫމުވެއެވެ. މިއީ އިންސާނީ ހަގީގަތެވެ. ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
އަޅުގަޑު މޭޒުދޮށުން ތެދުވެގެންދާއިރު، އަޅުގަޑުގެ މޫނުމަތިން ފެންނަންހުރި ހިނިތުންވުމާއި އަޅުގަޑުގެ ހިތުގައިވާ ހިތްހެޔޮކަމަކީ އަޅުގަޑުގެ އަމިއްލަ އުފެއްދުމެކެވެ. އެއީ އަޅުގަޑު ބޭނުންނުވާނަމަ، އެހެންމީހަކަށް ބާރުފޯރުވޭނެ އެއްޗެއްނޫނެވެ. އަދި އަޅުގަޑުގެ ޖަޒުބާތުތަކުގެ ލަގަން އޮންނާނީ އަޅުގަޑުގެ މުށުތެރޭގައެވެ. އެޖަޒުބާތުތަކުން އަޅުގަޑުގެ އަމިއްލަ އުފަލާއި ހިތްހަމަޖެހުމަށް ހުރަސްއެޅޭނެ ކޮންމެޖަޒުބާތެއް ފަސްޖައްސާލުމުގެ ބާރު އަޅުގަޑު ހޯދާނަމެވެ. އިންސާނަކަށްވުމުގެ ހިތްގައިމުކަމަކީ އެއީއެވެ. ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
 
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Posted by on May 22, 2008 in Positive Values, Service, Thaana

 

Seventeenth of May


Seventeenth of May turned out to be a wonderful day with all smiles. Many good things happened today. I have bought http://www.smile.org/ which will host the official website of Smile and Let Smile on August 16th this year. It will be the umbrella patform for all Smile Projects that have been planned for the next few years. My target date for retiring from Damas is 2016. I would then have to look for a job in civil society. That would be the time when I would start full-time on the Smile Projects. That would also allow me to have worked in the government, the private sector and the civil society.

Smile and Let Smile aims to touch the hearts and minds of all who associate themselves with Maldives, with a brilliant smile. I would have to dig up the archives to find out exactly when I started using the statement. I think it is immediately after I joined Damas, after leaving the government for better financial prospects.

Today I have the best of both worlds, I believe. A very secure job in a work environment that is fun and enjoyable and surrounded by good friends. What else can a man ask for? The Smile Project would be my effort in partnership with friends and colleagues, to do whatever little we can do, to make our community a better place for us all.

A smile cost nothing, as the saying goes; yet a smile can only be if we are in the right attitude of mind.

 
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Posted by on May 18, 2008 in Positive Values

 

Smiling Sweet Seventeen


I have a saying near my desk at work that says, “If you are bringing an excuse, this may not be the right time, please come tomorrow!” … Ofcourse, if the person did bring an excuse and came the following day, the announcement still tells him the same. Then today, when I came to work, everything had changed. It’s such a wonderful thing to work with colleagues who wish you well.
 
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Posted by on May 17, 2008 in For Laughs, Positive Values

 

Kankan kurevey meehakah vun! (Dhivehi)


އަޅުގަޑުމެންނަކީ އަޅުގަޑުމެން ބޭނުންވި ކޮންމެކަމެއް ކުރެވޭނެބައެކެވެ. އެކަން އެއީ ހަގީގަތަކަށް ހެދުން އޮތީ އަޅުގަޑުމެންގެ އަތްމަތީގައެވެ. ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
އަޅުގަޑުމެން ބޭނުންވާ ލަނޑުދަނޑިތަކަށް ވާސިލުވނުވެވިގެން މިއުޅެނީ ކޮންސަބަބަކާހުރެ ހެއްޔެވެ؟ މިސުވާލުކިޔާނުނިމެނީސް އަޅުގަޑުމެން ކޮންމެމީހެއްގެ ސިކުނޑިއަށްވެސް އެތައްނަމެއް އެތައްކަމެއް ވެރިވެގެންދާނެކަން ޔަގީނެވެ. އަޅުގަޑުމެންނަށް ނޭގިނަމަވެސް، ގަބޫލުކުރެވިފައި މިތިބެނީ އަޅުގަޑުމެންގެ ބަދުނަސީބާއި ނާކާމިޔާބުގެ ސަބަބަކީ އެހެންމީހުންނާއި އަޅުގަޑުމެންނަށް ބާރުނުފޯރާކަންތައްތައް ކަމުގައެވެ. ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
ހަގީގަތަކީ، އަޅުގަޑުމެންނަށް ހާސިލުނުވެއޮތް ކޮންމެކަމެއް ހާސިލުނުވެއޮތުމުގެ ސަބަބުއޮތީ އަޅުގަޑުމެންގެ ތެރޭގައެވެ. އަޅުގަޑުމެން ކޮންމެމީހެއްގެ ކިބައިގައެވެ. އެކަންކަން ފާހަގަކުރަނީ އެހެންމީހަކުނަމަ، އެމީހަކުދެކެ ހިތްހަމަނުޖެހުމާއި ރުޅިއައުމާއި ޖަދަލުކުރުމަކީ އިންސާނީތަބީއަތުގެ އާންމުސިފައެކެވެ. ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
ކާމިޔާބުމީހަކަށްވުމަށްޓަކާ އަޅުގަޑުމެންގެ ކިބައިގައި ޚާއްޞަ ސިފަތަކެއް ހުންނަންޖެހެއެވެ. އޭގެތެރެއިން އެއްސިފަޔަކީ އެހެންމީހުންނާއިކަންކަމަށް އިނގިލިދިއްކުރުން ދޫކޮށްލާ، ތިމާގެ ނަފުސާ ސުވާލުކުރުމެވެ. އަހަންނަށް ތަފާތެއްގެނެވިދާނެ ހެއްޔެވެ؟ ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
ޖަވާބުވަރަށް ސާފެވެ. އަޅުގަޑުމެން ކޮންމެމީހަކީވެސް އަމިއްލަޔަށް ބޭނުންވުމުން ތަފާތެއް ގެނެވިދާނެމީހެކެވެ. ތިމާ ހެނދުނުތެދުވާގަޑިއަށެވެ. އެހެންމީހުންނާ ވާހަކަދައްކާ ރާގަށެވެ. ޒިންމާދާރުކަމާއި މަސްއޫލިއްޔަތު އުފުލުމުގައެވެ. މީހުންނަށް ޚިދުމަތްކުރުމުގައެވެ. ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
ތަފާތެއްގެނައުން މިހިނދަށް އެންމެމުހިންމީ ކޮންކަންކަމަކުންތޯއާއި، ތަފާތެއްގެނަމުގައި އިސްކަންދޭނީ ކޮންކަމަކަށްތޯއާއި، ތިމާޔަށް އެންމެބޮޑު ކުރިއެރުމެއް މަގުކުރުކޮށް އެންމެ އަވަހަށް ހޯދައިގަންނާނީ ކިހިނެތްތޯ ކަނޑައެޅުމުގައި އެންމެފަސޭހަގޮތަކީ ތަފާތެއްގެންނަން ބޭނުންވާ ކޮންމެ ރޮގަކުން ރޯލްމޮޑެލެއް ފާހަގަކުރުމެވެ. އަދި އެފަރާތަކާއިއެކު ވަގުތު ހޭދަކުރުމެވެ. ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު ޝިހާބު
 
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Posted by on May 14, 2008 in Positive Values, Service

 
 
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