I was walking on my way to the ferry to get home, after spending a late evening at work. On the way I saw a man knocking at the window of a taxi and frantically shouting at the driver and pointing to him to reverse and go back and to the left side of a one way street. In a moment, a girl came out of the house the taxi was by, and got in. The man looked behind him and that was the moment “his taxi” came and stopped by his luggage on the other side of the street. I walked on.
I was reminded of a story from Hinnavaru where I worked as a headteacher for six years.
Once there was this teacher from the south who was working in the school. One day when he went to the classroom and came back, he found this girl running behind a boy shouting “dhon dheynvee” (give kiss). The teacher immediately ordered the grade 3 girl to the office, and told her to wait in detention after school. He knew that this girl was from a “bad home background”.
The teacher was very upset when he came to the office and found the girl missing and almost hit the ceiling when he found that the assistant headteacher had sent the girl home without keeping her for detention. Now, to cut a long story short; the assistant headteacher explained the following to the teacher who was past boiling point.
The girl was chasing the boy to get his “yellow” color pencil which the boy had grabbed from her. In Hinnavaru, children call yellow color pencil, “dhon”. So she was asking the boy to “give (her) dhon”; and NOT chasing the boy for a kiss!
Anyway, we make assumptions numerous times in our relationships and daily lives. It is always good TO ASK before we jump to conclusions, and make a fool of ourselves. I found this story useful in my communication sessions on organizational behavior/culture.