Below is the translation of the first column “Dhe Loa Fulhu” by Aiminath Gasim, the Chief Advocacy Officer of The Happiness Club. It was published on Sun.mv. She will be writing a new column every fortnight.
Children are the greatest trust that Allah bestows upon humans. This trust is a responsibility that must be diligently cared for. As stated in the Holy Quran: “Know that your wealth and your children are but a trial.” This verse reminds us that children are a test for us.
Importance of Legitimate Parenthood
In Islam, the presence of legitimate parents is crucial. Marriage is prescribed to ensure that children have a legitimate mother and father, protecting lineage, which is one of Islam’s objectives. The institution of marriage builds the foundation of society, protects honor, and maintains progeny according to Islamic principles.
Protection and Concessions for Mothers
From the moment of pregnancy, Islam provides protection and concessions for mothers. For example, pregnant women are allowed to make up missed Ramadan fasts later to avoid potential harm to the fetus. Husbands are instructed to be caring and kind to their pregnant wives. A hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) states: “The best among you is the one who is best to his family.”
Responsibilities Upon the Birth of a Child
The birth of a child brings immense joy and great responsibility. Parents must fulfill certain rights, such as whispering the call to prayer in the newborn’s ear and reciting the two testimonies of faith. On the seventh day, the aqeeqah sacrifice should be performed, and the child should be given a beautiful Islamic name. Breastfeeding is recommended for up to two years, crucial for the child’s growth and health, as emphasized by religion and supported by modern scientific findings.
Emotional Bond and Parental Duties
Every breath the newborn takes brings contentment and joy to the parents. Every movement seems to bring life to their existence. The mother’s entire being is filled with the sensations of her little one. Among the rights of children is to instill love for Islam and to raise them with religious education. A hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) states: “Every child is born in a state of fitrah (natural disposition). Then his parents make him a Jew, a Christian, or a Magian.”
Teaching Islamic Morals and Customs
Teaching children Islamic morals and customs is the most important responsibility of parents. The example set by parents plays a crucial role, as children learn more from their parents’ actions than their words.
Children: Our Future
Children are our future. To shape the future, we must be compassionate, provide care and protection, and give love unconditionally. We should not discriminate based on color or gender. Whether able-bodied or disabled, children are a blessing. Accept them with a pure heart, without neglect or discrimination.
Unique and Precious
Recognize that each child is unique. Accept Allah’s decree with contentment. Give them time and raise them with happiness. The values you instill will, God willing, be reflected by your children in the future. You will reap the sweet rewards of your efforts.
Guarding the Trust
Guard this trust with care and provide a good upbringing. Take full responsibility for your children. Neglecting this duty will have negative effects on society. Therefore, let us all be mindful and work towards raising our children to be righteous, God-loving, and loyal citizens. Let’s give every child, as dear to us as our own eyes, a chance.
Smile and Let Smile 